Lightweight gear for the noob

Hey guys the last few times ive been walking ive been carrying a 95 litre pack thats full to the brim with around 25 kg's in it (for a 4 dayer), in short.. it kills me, so ive decided to go lightweight (not super lightweight but light enough).
I used to carry (main gear)
-Vango spirit 200+ 2.7 kgs ~ and packs massive
-Deuter 85+10 aircontact 2.7 kgs~
-Exped downmat 9 1.1 kgs~
-MSR WL International 0.22 kgs~ (plus about a litre of fuel in a steel bottle and accesories)
-MSR quick 2 0.5 kgs ~(with a partner)
-Exped waterbloc 800 1.5kgs~ (recently returned it, overpriced, overweight and only a -3 comfort)
Gear i want to get
-Neo air or Exped synmat
-Some sort of solo or duo lightweight tent (Akto, big agnes, not sure yet it only has to be 3 season)
-Lightweight pack (65 L about) but it has to have a full harness
-Titanium pot set
-Either down quilt or WM summerlite
-Kovea titanium
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated, with the tent i was looking for something either pitch as one (integral pitch) or single skin that is easy to pitch and with the pack i hate all those attachement points i just want a decent top loading pack with a decent harness (NB i have a small back and i found that with a 95L deuter and 25 kgs it didnt fit nicely so id like a smaler harness, im 15 so im still growing =).
I used to carry (main gear)
-Vango spirit 200+ 2.7 kgs ~ and packs massive
-Deuter 85+10 aircontact 2.7 kgs~
-Exped downmat 9 1.1 kgs~
-MSR WL International 0.22 kgs~ (plus about a litre of fuel in a steel bottle and accesories)
-MSR quick 2 0.5 kgs ~(with a partner)
-Exped waterbloc 800 1.5kgs~ (recently returned it, overpriced, overweight and only a -3 comfort)
Gear i want to get
-Neo air or Exped synmat
-Some sort of solo or duo lightweight tent (Akto, big agnes, not sure yet it only has to be 3 season)
-Lightweight pack (65 L about) but it has to have a full harness
-Titanium pot set
-Either down quilt or WM summerlite
-Kovea titanium
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated, with the tent i was looking for something either pitch as one (integral pitch) or single skin that is easy to pitch and with the pack i hate all those attachement points i just want a decent top loading pack with a decent harness (NB i have a small back and i found that with a 95L deuter and 25 kgs it didnt fit nicely so id like a smaler harness, im 15 so im still growing =).